The Submissive Exit: How to Leave a Domme the Right Way
Let’s talk about something no one warns you about in this space.
You submit. You serve. You obsess.
And then… you disappear. No goodbye. No explanation. Just a sudden block or silent vanishing act.
It might feel like an easy exit for you. But for the Domme on the other side? Honestly, it stings.
We Notice When You Leave
This isn't just kink-play, or about the money to many of us. It's connection. Especially when we talk daily, when I know your triggers, when I’ve guided you through cravings, spirals, and fantasies… and also gotten to know the vanilla you outside of play in our aftercare, or just general chit-chat.
So when you suddenly go quiet, I worry.
Not in a needy way. In a human way.
I wonder if you're sick, hurt, spiraling negatively, or worse. And if you block me without warning, it doesn't just feel like abandonment. It feels like punishment.
Blocking Hurts Our Accounts Too
When you block your Domme on X, you're not just cutting off communication. You're actively damaging our visibility, reach, income and ability to have others to play with.
So don’t be selfish. If you're struggling or want to disconnect, ask me to block you instead. Or simply deactivate your account. Either way, don’t penalize me or any other innocent Domme for a situation they didn’t cause, but you wanted to end. At the end of the day YOU are the one behind a screen, you hold more power and a helluva lot more responsibility than you probably realise.
Ghosting Isn’t as Harmless as You Think
I understand. Really, I do. Sometimes shame creeps in. PNC or Life gets heavy. You might feel embarrassed that you can't serve financially anymore or you're afraid the conversation will be uncomfortable. Or maybe you’ve found a new Domme you simply connect with much better. All reasons are valid BUT you need to understand that ghosting is not and never will be harmless.
I want you to know this. You are not weak for saying goodbye with grace. You are stronger for it.
I’ve maintained real friendships with former subs who can no longer serve. I don't expect you to serve forever. But I do expect the same respect I gave you while we were connected.
If You’re Overwhelmed, Try This Instead
Here are some exit strategies that are simple, safe, and healthy:
Use a safe exit word. Something like “END GAME” or “Fade out” can signal you need to step away without emotional overload.
Send one final message. Even a short note like, “Thank you for everything. I need to take a step back, but I’m grateful,” can bring closure.
Don’t block. Deactivate. If you need space, take it. But don’t sabotage our connection by blocking unless you absolutely have to.
Ask your Domme to block you. If that’s easier, I’ll do it. No questions asked.
How to Say Goodbye When You Don’t Know What to Say
If you're unsure how to phrase it, here’s something you can copy and paste:
Goddess, I want to thank you for the time, energy, and space you've held for me. Things have changed in my life, and I need to step away. I didn’t want to disappear without telling you because you’ve meant a lot to me. I hope this message shows the respect I have for you.
That’s all it takes. One message. One moment of courage.
I’m not angry when you need to go. I just want to know.
Because this isn’t a game to me. And if we shared time, words, rituals, and energy… I cared.
And if you ever come back? You’ll always be remembered by how you left.
—AJ