Loyalty, Lies, and the Fantasy of Being Shared

Infidelity is a hot-button topic in kink. And in my world, it’s not as simple as black or white, loyal or disloyal. Because while I value loyalty deeply, I also understand the complex truth about submissives, ownership, and unmet needs.

Yes, I expect devotion. Yes, I require transparency. But I’m not naïve. This is a space where fantasy, secrecy, and desire all bleed together.

So let’s have the conversation too many people avoid.

I Value Loyalty. But I Value Transparency Even More.

I’m not just strict about how you serve me. I’m strict about how you show up in this space. Transparency is my highest standard. Especially when it comes to in-person play or submissives who are dating or married.

Because here’s the truth. If you have a wife, I need to know.

I am discreet. I practice confidentiality. I respect your privacy. But I also need to know what I am walking into. It’s not just about emotional safety. It’s about physical safety too. I don’t want to cop online abuse from an angry girlfriend, or be at STI risk (for in person… your herpes mouth aint touching me pretty pedicured feet, the same mouth that had a golden shower with another Domme earlier in the day), boundary clarity, and situational awareness all matter to me. I am not here to be a reckless escape. I am here to be the thing you consciously choose.

And many of my long-term submissives are married. Their wives don’t know what they do, and that isn’t always because they want to deceive them. Some wives have said outright they will never cater to their husband’s kinks. Others judge them, shame them, or shut them down.

So when these men come to me, it’s not to cheat. It’s to stay sane. They serve me so they can stay grounded in the rest of their lives. Some even call it devotion without destruction.

But again, the difference is that I know. That’s the line.

Polyamory, Sharing, and the Power of Owning What You Need

Not every Domme will meet every need. That’s not a betrayal. That’s human. Some submissives genuinely thrive under multiple Dommes. When done ethically, it works. But it only works if everyone involved is aware.

That’s why I respect community subs who own what they are. They do not lie. They do not pretend they are monogamous to one Domme while secretly tributing ten others. They are open, structured, and honest. That kind of submissive earns respect.

But the ones who hide? The ones who cry broke to me and then tip someone else in the same breath? I always find out. That isn’t poly. That isn’t kink. That’s deception. And it makes you look weak, not submissive. And someone I will forget even exists.

I Do Not “Steal” Subs. But I See Who Offers Themselves

Let me be very clear. I do not chase. I do not beg. I do not poach.

But when a submissive shows up in my notifications, emails, or X inbox with a tribute and a confession that he’s already “owned,” I take note. Because if he were truly owned, he would not be wandering. If he were genuinely trained, he would not be offering himself to me without prompt or invitation.

This is not a reflection of the Domme’s failure. Quite the opposite.

If he is fantasising about being stolen, used or ruined in secret, humiliated over infidelity, or hidden, then he is already halfway out of his original dynamic or looking for infidelity play. That is not theft on my behalf. It just is what it is.

I always encourage transparency for both sides of a dynamic. And if it seems like he is slipping from his current Domme, I suggest he end things respectfully before stepping further into my world. But if what he is chasing is an infidelity kink, then the truth is, if you are his main girl, you simply may not be able to cater to that. I can. And I probably will if I am in the mood for it.

Should I reach out to you, just because your account is linked on his profile? Not unless he asks me to. I operate with discretion, confidentiality, and integrity. I am not here to cause drama. I am here to explore power, fantasy, and pleasure.

Unless you are a close friend of mine, I will not be messaging you. I expect the same in return. Handle things discreetly. Be professional. Stay focused on your lane.

Because at the end of the day, no one gets stolen. They offer themselves. Focus on why you are really here, to police play or enjoy it?

There Is a Difference Between Cheating and Seeking

I understand the fantasy of infidelity. The forbidden thrill. The idea of being caught. Of being passed between Dommes. Of being punished for disobedience.

That fantasy can be hot. It can be roleplayed. It can be explored safely and consensually.

But what I will never tolerate is cowardice. You can want more. You can serve others. But if you hide it from me, lie about it, or pretend to be someone you're not... I lose all interest.

Be a submissive who knows his needs. Not one who fakes devotion for the sake of ego.

I do not require exclusivity from everyone.

I do not shame those who are married or exploring. I understand that kinks are complicated and sometimes kept separate from daily life.

But what I do require is honesty.

Tell me who you are. Tell me what you need. Tell me who you belong to. And I will tell you whether or not I accept it.

Because cheating is not about having more than one Domme. It is about lying to the one you claim to serve.

And I am not a woman you lie to. If you do, you best hope I never find out because I don’t want to know, and I will dismiss you.