Life Update: I recently completed writing my book!
I recently completed writing my book. Currently undergoing editing, Dommehood: The Confident Woman’s Guide to BDSM, Power, and Financial Worship will soon be accessible for digital download. I intend to publish a paperback version as well in the future, but for now, I want to make this available to the women who need it as quickly and affordably as possible. Because this book closes a gap that I've noticed for a very long time.
A growing number of women, particularly young women, are entering the scene without access to adequate education, mentorship, or reality checks due to the promotion of findom and femdom on social media as some sort of get-rich-quick scheme. Additionally, it is putting them at risk for confusion, disappointment, burnout, and even serious danger. That's not what this book is. If your goal is to make quick money, and you dont care who you hurt, even if its yourself, if you dont genuinely want to be a powerful Domme, then dont read this book and dont persue Dommehood. This isnt a game. This isn't how it really works.
Sure you can make a lot of money from this, I am living proof. But there's a lot that goes into it and being genuine, passionate and business-minded is something that is crucial and not taught in those tiktok famous findom guides.
This book of mine is for the women who genuinely identify with dominance. For the would-be Domme without a mentor or dungeon. For the woman who is aware that she was destined to be a leader but requires direction on how to do so in a way that is morally righteous, sustainable, and effective. For the professional who has lost her spark and wishes to confidently and clearly rekindle her career. The reality of this industry is the subject of this book. the depth of psychology. The emotional toil. individual development. This book was created for you if you're prepared to take your role seriously and create a long, rewarding, and genuine career in kink and fetish industry.
These days, "findom guides" are widely available for purchase online. There are a tonne of how-to ebooks on TikTok that promise instant money, viral fame, and a completely passive income by becoming a dominatrix overnight. But let's face it, this isn't how it works. Real power doesn't operate like that. I wrote Dommehood for that reason. Dommehood: The Confident Woman's Guide to BDSM, Power, and Financial Worship, which I will be publishing soon, is not a money grab. It is not a guide to copy-and-paste scripts. It's not a fantasy of "posting this tweet and earning $1,000." For women entering or advancing in their dominance, whether online or off, it is a genuine, realistic, and perceptive bible. The information you will find in this book isn’t easily accessible online, its a decade of my work in these pages, it is everything you wished those tiktok manuals were but will never be unless written by an actual experienced Dominatrix.
This book is for:
• The aspiring Domme who doesn’t have access to mentorship, dungeons, or a safe community to ask questions.
• The curious woman who feels the call of control but wants to move forward with ethics, confidence, and clarity.
• The seasoned Dominant who may have lost her spark and needs a reminder of the power she holds.
• The ethical leader who wants to stand out in a sea of sugar-coated marketing and shortcut mentalities.
Why I wrote this book
I am frequently asked to mentor others. Aspiring Dommes message me weekly, seeking structure, clarity, support, and direction.
Despite my desire to assist each and every one of them, the reality is that I am unable to do so. I'm a one-woman show. My play sessions, side projects, social media, content, in-person sessions in real time, and personal life are all managed by me. There simply isn't enough of me to go around without compromising authenticity or quality.
Additionally, I will never pretend to be someone else or outsource my voice in order to grow or increase my income. I truly adore this piece of work. I adore the power dynamics, artistry, psychology, and inventiveness. And I want to continue doing it with joy, ethics, and sustainability. I wrote this book in order to be helpful to the community that I care about so much, for the submissives that find themselves being abused rather than played with, for the Dommes who are passionate about their craft and want to truly dedicate themselves. I saw a gap, a dangerous one. There are far too many women (Male Doms, too) entering the world without a solid foundation. Both Dommes and subs are at risk and are being hurt in more ways than one due to lack of education. Additionally, far too many people are being sold a fantasy without the resources and support they need to achieve it. I wrote this book for people who wanted to learn from me but ended up finding themselves on a waiting list, lacking the funds for mentorship, or requiring something they can learn at their own speed and convenience. Dommehood is my way of giving back without burning out, and it's the mentorship I wish I had when I first started so many years ago.
Why this book is different
Because becoming wealthy overnight isn't the goal of Dommehood. Remembering who the f*ck you are is the key to unlocking that wealth. It involves laying a foundation based on psychological fortitude, emotional intelligence, clarity, and consent. It's for the woman who desires to dominate, lead, and influence in a genuine way rather than merely a theatrical one. There is no short cut to financial dominance or BDSM mastery. Integrity, education, experience, and embodiment are the only ones. This book equips you to walk that path with strength. It is full of advice, practical tips rather than tricks. Viewpoint, not assurances. There isn't a trend. It's a way of life. Dommehood will soon be accessible. It will alter your perception of yourself, your authority, and your dynamics. To be the first to know when it drops, follow me on X and keep an eye on my blog. Not everyone will find this appealing, the truth isnt always what you wish to hear. For women who are aware that they were destined to be leaders, this is for you!